What you can achieve if you believe Part 2
HOW TO DEVELOP POWERFUL TOOLS TO GET YOUR MIND ON YOUR SIDE
Why do you need self-belief?
We have seen how the mind can has influence over the physical. It therefore follows it is very important what the mind believes. What you believe of yourself can likely become a powerful reality.
Self-belief is vital because it influences how you live your life. How many things have you not done or tried because you lacked belief in yourself?
Many of us fail to believe in themselves because others didn’t. But as Eleanor Roosevelt, a renowned former first lady of the United Staes, so deftly put it: “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
However self-doubts creep in, don’t they? Like unwelcome house guests that keep coming over simply because you entertained them before. Doubts such as:
- Can I really do this?
- I can’t risk failure.
- What will other people think if I say/ do this?
- Other people are smarter, better, more worthy than me.
- Success is for others but not for the likes of me!
Colonel Sanders was the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC). At the age of 62 that he set out across America with a $105 retirement cheque in hand to pitch his chicken recipe to restaurants. 1,009 folks told him they were not, but he didn’t give up; he believed he had something.
Sanders was a jack of all trades, including fireman, tyre salesman, insurance salesman, and of course at some point, a cook. He came up with up his secret chicken recipe in 1940 when he figured out how to pressure fry chicken into a faster and more consistent product all the time.
It wasn’t until 1952 that he began trying to sell his franchise-model chicken restaurant. After 1000+ rejections, the first restaurant that he landed was in Salt Lake City, Utah, which became the first Kentucky Fried Chicken. Within a year the restaurant tripled its sales where 75% of that revenue was from the Sanders’ chicken. After this the company grew expanded faster than anyone could have ever imagined. In 1964, at 74, Sanders sold his company for $2 million dollars.
- Do you have self-belief?
- How do you actually come to believe in yourself?
- How does this exactly work to help you get what you want?
These are the questions that are important for you to answer. This will help you move on from wanting to believe in yourself, to genuinely believing in yourself and leveraging the incredible power of self-belief.
Let’s begin by taking a look at the mechanisms of self-belief.
How Self-Belief Works
Self-belief has a very fascinating way of functioning. There are several positive things that it does, which in turn facilitate getting the results you desire.
Jim Carey has acted in some of the highest-grossing comedy movies of all time such as The Mask, Ace Ventura and Dumb and Dumber. Jim Carey’s story was one of struggle. He was brought up in a lower-income family with a dad who struggled to keep jobs. The family were so poor that Jim had to drop out of high school at 15 and get a job as a janitor so he could help support the family.
On his first stand-up comedy gig at a club in Toronto, he was booed off stage. A few years later, when he auditioned for the popular Saturday Night Live Show for the 1980-81 season, he failed to land the part.
After years of struggling but continuing to believe in himself, he eventually made it big on the big stage. In an interview with popular talk show host, Oprah Winfrey, Carey talked of how he used the ‘Law of Attraction’ by writing himself a cheque for $10,000,000 for “Acting Services Rendered,” and putting the cheque in his wallet for 7 years until he finally received a $10,000,000 payment for his work in Dumb and Dumber.
Self-belief guides you towards opportunities
It has been shown that having clear goals helps you to notice those elements in your environment that can assist you in reaching them. This happens because the clarity of your goals gives meaning to those elements. Subsequently, if you make use of those elements, you will reach your goals.
However though this may be true, clear goals in themselves are often not enough to help you spot opportunities. Normally if you have a clear goal but you don’t actually believe that you can achieve it, your mind will fail to identify the opportunities around you. Lack of belief blinds you.
On the other hand, if you have clear goals and you believe you can reach them, then your mind has the highest possible receptivity to elements that can help you reach your goals. You will detect them quickly, even the understated ones, and you’ll be able to employ them to your use.
Self-belief encourages action and persistence
It’s difficult to take action towards a goal if deep down you really don’t believe you can achieve it. It’s even more challenging to put in the consistent effort that is needed to arrive at any worthwhile goal. And in the event you fail to accomplish your goals, this will unfortunately confirm your lack of self-belief.
However, if on the contrary you believe in yourself,
- you are motivated to take action,
- you stay motivated over long periods of time, and
- you don’t get discouraged by mistakes or obstacles. You will be inclined to simply see them as a part of the process, and you’ll keep going on despite setbacks, until you get what you want.
This, unquestionably, will reinforce your self-belief.
Self-belief makes others responsive
Other people regularly play an important role towards achieving your goals. In fact, more often than not your goals may refer to other people; and generally, others tend to react to you the way you believe they will.
- If you request a person for something and you believe they will give it to you, they will sense the conviction in your voice and they will be more inclined to respond to your request positively. On the other hand, if you lack belief, your request will be hesitant, which will make it more likely to be rejected.
- If you talk to someone and you believe they will like you, you will exude a positive vibe, which will likely make them more inclined to like you. However if you lack that belief, you will not truly portray who you are, bringing into doubt your authenticity and the other person may not feel comfortable dealing with you.
Oprah Winfrey had a difficult start in life. As the daughter of a teenaged, low-income single mother, her start was anything but glamorous. In her early years, as Oprah recounts they were not only living in rough conditions, but she was sexually abused, starting from the age of 9, by her cousin, uncle, and a family friend. At the age of 14, Oprah became pregnant, but shortly after birth her son died.
Soon after, Oprah went to live with her father, in Tennessee. She worked hard and was accepted on a full scholarship to the University of Tennessee, majoring in communications. Oprah interned at a local radio station, helping to develop a foundation for a career in media.
However, even after Oprah got hired on to a local television station for the news, things didn’t go right. She was laid off by the producer because she was “unfit for television.”
Oprah continued to struggle until in 1983, she moved to Chicago, to host a low-rated talk show called AM Chicago. Within less than a year, the show went from bottom of the ratings, to higher than Donahue, which was the number one show at the time. This led to the show being renamed The Oprah Winfrey Show, which was syndicated across the country. The Oprah Winfrey Show aired for 25 seasons, from 1986 to 2011.
In 2015, Forbes put Oprah’s net worth at 3.3 billion, and impressive feat for a once local news reporter who worked herself up the ladder because she believed she could.
Self-belief facilitates finding creative solutions
When you approach a goal from a position of disbelief,
- you filled with anxiety and
- your thinking gets congested by it.
As a result this makes finding model solutions to reach that goal less probable.
On the other hand, self-belief makes
- you more relaxed and
- you think more clearly.
- reasoning and,
- above all, creativity.
This will help you find innovative solutions to reach your goals. In particular, you will be forced to think outside the normal and come up with creative solutions that work.
That’s how self-belief works. However, let’s be clear that in isolation it is not sufficient to get you where you want. You still need to take action, persevere and learn from your mistakes. Nevertheless, it opens up the way towards getting what you want.